WEDNESDAY, MAY 16: A grieving husband has paid tribute to his brave and dignified wife after she lost her four-year battle against cancer.
Tracy Bean said his wife, Terry, was ‘a mother in all senses of the word’ to the couples’ four children right up to the moment she passed away last week with her family at her bedside.
He told the Bermuda Sun: “I have lost a half of me.
“She sacrificed everything for the children and only ever wanted the best for them.
“She always put them first and even when she was in real pain towards the end made sure she was being the best mom she could be.
“But she wasn’t just a mother to our children. She was a mother to all the kids at Dellwood where she worked.
“They called her Momma Bean.”
The couple met in March 1994 at the BAA field and within a year Mr Bean had asked Terry to be his wife.
They married in January 1995 and had their first daughter, T’chante later that same year.
Mr Bean said: “I still remember her smiling on our wedding day.
“The sun was big and bright and everyone was squinting when we had our photos taken.
“But not Terry, she had this big smile on her face all day.
“I used to joke with her that she was the only one smiling on the wedding day.
“But that was just her. She had this electric smile that affected everyone and everyone remembers her by.
“It never mattered how upset or annoyed she was I could always get her to smile like that.”
The couple went on to have three more children Terita, Tariq and Tokia and spent many happy evenings as a family watching Mr Bean playing softball at the Michael Preece Softball Stadium.
Mrs Bean started work at Dellwood School in 1999 in the administration department, and ended up working there for more than a decade.
She made such an impact on the school community that Dellwood closed its doors early last Friday as a tribute to her.
Mr Bean said: “She loved that school and the teachers and the pupils in it. And they loved her.
“She always said she was going to school rather than going to work.
“That was how she viewed it.
“She never took a bad day to school with her, and she never brought a bad day at school back home.”
Mrs Bean was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer in April 2008 and as the disease became more aggressive she received chemotherapy in Bermuda and radiotherapy in Boston.
On the day she returned to Bermuda following the course of radiotherapy her mother died due to the same condition.
Mr Bean said: “It devastated her that she never got to say goodbye to her mother.
“And it was hard to get her to lift her spirits after that.
“But she managed to do it and she never stopped fighting for us.
“She kept working at the school and being a full time mom right up to this Easter.
“It was amazing to see her strength and her determination to carry on but also hard to see her in so much pain.
“She wanted to be there for the children. She was always worried about doing things for the family and other people when she was really suffering herself.
“But we all pulled together to support her. It was a true team effort.”
After a brief spell in hospital in April, Mrs Bean was readmitted to Agape House at the beginning of May.
She passed away on May 10 at the age of 47.
Mr Bean said: “All the family were there. We took it in turns to see her.
“I was last and I just told her ‘you can’t do this any more’.
“I told her I loved her and that I could not bear to see her suffer any more.
“She nodded and squeezed my hand. She shed a tear and closed her eyes.
“She had done everything she could to beat it but there was nothing more that she could do.”
Mr Bean said his family was gradually coming to terms with the loss, but admitted they had been lifted by the incredible show of support from across the community to news of Mrs Bean’s death.
He added: “Terry did everything with dignity and she remained strong even towards the end.
“The outpouring from the public after her death has been immense and is a reflection of the person she was.
“For me she was my ultimate compliment.
“Every quality I am weak in or lacking she had in abundance, and vice versa.”